My whole insistence is to learn not to will things -- learn to allow them -- otherwise will always creates tension in you. You are already tense and will will create more tension. If you succeed sometimes -- which doesn't mean that will succeeds; it simply means that the things were going that way and you also willed it -- it was a coincidence....
Whenever will succeeds, it simply shows it is a coincidence -- will never succeeds. The wind was blowing to the north and you were rushing to the north. The wind is not blowing to the north because you are going to the north. It is just coincidence that the wind is also going to the north; it is not following your will. Sometimes you will feel that the will succeeded -- it was coincidence -- then it creates ego and ego is a great problem, the greatest of them all... it is the essential madness. If you fail there is frustration.
If you fail you feel very horrible about yourself -- you think you are not worthy, that you are worthless, that you don't even deserve to be alive -- and then you find a thousand and one faults with yourself and you start hating yourself. When you hate yourself you hate the whole world, and when you are not satisfied with yourself you are unsatisfied with everything.
So if will succeeds -- which is a coincidence -- then ego is created, and ego is anguish, hell. If will fails -- which is natural, which is not a coincidence, which is just how things are -- if it fails, then you are frustrated. And out of one hundred times, ninety-nine times the will will fail and only one time will it succeed. It will create problems both ways: either this or that you will be in a problem.
What I am saying is to let existence be as it is! Please don't try to change it -- nobody has ever been able to change anything; change is one of the greatest illusions. The day you accept things as they are, you have become mature. It is simply childish to try to change them.
People recognise it, but very late -- when the whole life has gone and they have wasted their whole life fighting and trying to change. When they are just going to die or just a few years are left, then they start recognising that nothing has happened, they have not been able to change anything. Only one thing has happened: trying to change they have wasted their life.
They could have lived! Only people who don't want to change things are capable of living -- you cannot do both together.
So make the best of it; whatsoever is available is available. This is the only world -- there is no other world -- and this moment's reality is this moment's reality.
What is, is, and what ain't, ain't!
Relax into it, accept it. Don't say that the mind goes astray. How can the mind go astray? Wherever it goes, it's okay, and whatsoever happens is good; that's how the whole is willing it to happen. Who are we to fight with it and how can we hope to succeed against the whole? The part cannot succeed against the whole.
There is no goal and there is nowhere else to go -- this is it!
If you can just start living your life as it comes, if you start enjoying whatsoever it gives... And I am not saying that it will be perfect; it is never perfect, and it has no obligation to be perfect. This is how it is -- perfect, imperfect. Now you can do two things: either you start trying to change it -- then you miss living it, you cannot do both together -- or you live it.
Then you don't bother about changing it... and anyhow it is never changed.
This I call maturity. A man who has no idea to change anything has arrived! Then how can there be any tension, anguish, anxiety? Then everything starts being beautiful because you start living it. Will is just another way of asserting the ego.
So let me repeat it: this is it! Get hold of this moment and live it!
Osho
